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It was literally thrown at me by my helpful roommate one dark day when my romantic despair was so intense it was almost bending the light around my head. I did my sincere best to bracket that noise and come at it fresh and open to new ideas and experience, figuring I could just take the good and laugh at the bad 1.
See, humans and human connections and humanity in general are deeply important to me both concretely and conceptually, kind of replacing capital-G God in my little cosmology 2. Human interaction more often than not leaves me feeling fried and drained and in desperate need of several hours of solid solitude. But one-on-one the task of weaving my emotions into the immediate experience that I share with another concrete human being is a different beast altogether.
But enough about me 6. This particular book opens 7 by jarring you to get your attention, the first page having a big READ ME title and the rest of the intro spent mostly mocking you for being so weak as to mindlessly follow orders.
This is gimmicky and dumb. The military con- and de-notations are definitely intentional.
No reading ahead, no skipping out on assignments. There are a few fields for you to fill out answers to questions, some good what are your strengths and goals in life and some bad explain with detail exactly how you will suffer if you fail to change your broken ways. If you have not received any information after contact with Australia Post, please contact us to confirm that the details for delivery logged with us are correct.
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I thought it was a bible because it was black with gold pages. I've had plenty of women in my life to put this book to shame. I find it lame when all a man's life revolves around sex. There's more to life than just sex, like making money and doing the things you wanted to do. Sex for me is just a by product. This book is for ugly guys trying to get laid?
Margaret This book isn't specifically for ugly guys - there are plenty of people who know how to use their personality and compart themselves in public. And …more This book isn't specifically for ugly guys - there are plenty of people who know how to use their personality and compart themselves in public.
And there are better books out there to teach such. This book exists to help guys trick women into think it'd be worthwhile to spend an evening with them. See all 3 questions about The Game…. Lists with This Book. Community Reviews. Showing Rating details. More filters. Sort order. Jun 07, Amitai rated it it was amazing Recommends it for: I know I'm taking a risk by even acknowledging its existence and my familiarity with its contents.
But this book tells a story of ethical tension that is, hands down, the most powerful treatise on morals and group dynamics I have ever read. I found it at once the modern man's sefer mussar of choice, and the endgame of every single Reality TV show every made. But it is not for everyone. You'll know if I know I'm taking a risk by even acknowledging its existence and my familiarity with its contents.
You'll know if it's for you after reading the first 10 pages. The first 5 are here: The author walks down roads, and perhaps comes to conclusions, that ultimately reflect an eerily familiar set of values. However, this presentation is backed up by his experience, and so we trust his authority. And who is "we"?: What kind of relationship is a good one? Because before we even seek an Other, we must choose: This book may make you question your unconscious assumptions or conscious decisions in this area.
I admit my assumption that female readers can also gain these things from a man's story. Authoritarians ask their authorities clergy, philosophers, etc. Finally, sexually -unaware or -sensitive folk e. A 'pickup artist' is an amateur social scientist who adopts a language of "technology" complete with acronyms and jargon in order to systematize interpersonal relations: With the internet as catalyst, they formed a community, granting the unprecedented ability to share knowledge and methods.
The author is an NYT and then Rolling Stone reporter who, born and raised a geek, discovered this community of pickup artists. To make a long story short, he mastered the "art". How did it change him? Does power corrupt? The book is selfish. It is about the connection sex has to the self, and reveals much about the modern cultural condition. You will learn what you want to from the book, and therein lies the "danger" in my recommendation. Full disclosure: I vicariously got something out of my system, learned about the human being, and myself.
It validated many concepts I have about friendship, group dynamics, and honesty. It also serves as a warning about the evils of backbiting and gossip, misogyny, and coveting. It has, in its way, said the same thing as such classic Jewish works as Mesilat Yesharim and Orhot Tzadikim though they say much more as well , and modern day "classics" like Magic Touch and the entire Gila Manolson oeuvre.
It complements Wendy Shalit's "Modesty" nicely. I am not a fan or groupie: I am engaged to a woman who has trebled the joy and light in my life, and opened up new worlds to me, my teacher, my student — so I am not a consumer of this.
And the only habit I have adopted since reading the book is to smile whenever I walk into a room of people I don't know. Though perhaps, that is life-changing enough View all 6 comments. Aug 20, christy rated it did not like it. Although well-written, this book is appalling and sad. Ultimately this peek into "the secret society of pickup artists" is not as enlightening as the cover art, book jacket and title would like us to think.
And I can't help but feel a writerly disappointment in Neil Strauss for having embraced something that brazenly revels in its own misogyny. Don't be fooled; Mystery--who is a solid example of what happens when one is deprived of validation as a child-- tries to spin his technique as a means to Although well-written, this book is appalling and sad. Don't be fooled; Mystery--who is a solid example of what happens when one is deprived of validation as a child-- tries to spin his technique as a means to understanding women.
It isn't. It's about programming, memorization and regurgitation. There is nothing genuine about any of it, no emotion attached. Scores of men are knowingly--and happily--being programmed to objectify, demoralize and dehumanize women in an effort to build their own self-confidence.
I think it's important for both men and women to have self-confidence. But even at this point in the 21st century, why must one gender STILL be torn down in order for the other to feel confident?
Aren't there more emotionally and socially constructive ways to build a sense of self-worth? But then again That is an important point that is sadly overlooked. View all 12 comments. I spent the first pages utterly confused. Was the point of The Game to meet lots of girls, get a girlfriend, or just have lots of sex? One wannabe-PUA crows about losing his virginity - it's a horrible, painful experience which he can't wait to end.
But afterwards, he says that he's excited because this will take the pressure off, and allow him to approach more women, presumably to have even more painful, awful sex with women he doesn't like. After a few hundred pages I realised that The Game I spent the first pages utterly confused. After a few hundred pages I realised that The Game isn't about sex, or getting a girlfriend, or falling in love.
It's just about showing off in front of other men. They're collecting women, but it could just as easily be fast cars, or the high score on Zelda, or bear carcasses. PUAs go out, recite their lines, get phone numbers or a 'kiss close' a girl kisses you, then leaves , then go home to type up their conquests on PUA message-boards. They could just make the whole experience up, and they would have the same response. Strauss himself realises that "it was really shared emotions and experience that creates relationships, not seven hours of [PUA] routines followed by two hours of sex".
I learned a few rules of succeeding in The Game: Don't care about women. That way, if they knock you back, it doesn't matter. They're just numbers to you, so anything hurtful they say or do is irrelevant. Get used to rejection.
One wannabe-PUA spent a weekend trying to chat up exactly women - and "even managed to get a few phone numbers". If women gave him their numbers, that means that 95 didn't. As soon as you can, puff up your chest and crow about your successes to any other PUA who will listen. The most disturbing part of the book - hypnosis - is mentioned, but never explored. Strauss mentions a PUA who "approached the girl This is never mentioned again in the book, but is the most sinister aspect, crossing the line from harmless pickup routines into nonconsensual sex.
Excluding that aspect, I do feel the need to defend The Game. It's just a series of behaviours and word patters, and women don't just 'fall for it'. We can be dumb sometimes, but we're not that dumb. As the book says, women want sex just like men do, they "just don't want to be pressured, lied to, or made to feel like a slut". If a woman wants to go home with a guy, she will. If she doesn't want to, she won't. Is there really any harm in a guy trotting out some bullshit lines, just to get a girl to notice him?
These men are sad, lonely, and socially inept. They need all the help they can get. As I'm sure you can guess, in the book I discovered, word-for-word, a routine that was used on me a few months ago. I met a guy in a club, he started reciting all the lines. We talked for a while, and when he asked for my number I reminded him that I had a boyfriend - to which he said that he just wanted my number so we could continue our conversation about Wuthering Heights you at the back, please stop laughing at my gullibility.
He seemed pretty harmless - I certainly wasn't going to sleep with him, but new friends are always good - so I gave him my number. He texted a few times, then started to mention sex, at which point I told him to please go away, then deleted his number. At the time, I figured that he hadn't got anything out of this interaction. I clearly wasn't interested in him, and we never met up again. Yet, in terms of The Game, he won.
He left with a girl's number - a girl with a boyfriend, no less.
He could have gone home and bragged online about the pocketful of phone numbers he got, even if they wouldn't have got him any closer to sex or a girlfriend. He could have had approval from other men, and that is the whole point of The Game. View all 5 comments. Nov 16, Chance rated it did not like it. This book was fucking terrible. I'm ashamed to have read it. Mar 27, Isa K. I'll start with the Cliff Notes for those of you who don't like long reviews: This book would be five stars if it was about pages shorter.
And if you're one of those people who takes things way too literal, confuses the opinions and attitudes of the subject for the opinions and attitudes of the author, or needs every report of observed misogyny to be prefaced with twelve paragraphs of either apology or condemnation At the same time this book makes a I'll start with the Cliff Notes for those of you who don't like long reviews: At the same time this book makes a rather revolutionary suggestion that I think more women NEED to open their minds to.
But that's not the way things go with this one They either eagerly attach themselves to the promise of some secret seduction technique, or they become blinded by their offense. It's true, there are a lot of offensive things in this book. But that seems to be par for the course with social commentary nowadays.
If no one is pissed off, no one is listening. My first exposure to this book was Arden Leigh's column on being a female pickup artist here after PUA. I was fascinated by the idea, but like most I didn't really believe her claims. She looked perfectly pretty to me.
Doubtful her "technique" played that much of a significant role in her seduction success. Probably more like a combination of actual attractiveness and good old fashioned confidence. Then a female friend described this book as "amazing" and "life-changing" and I thought "waaaaaaaatt?
Talk about cognitive dissonance. Let me clear something up for the rest of you: This is a book that tries to trick you into thinking that it's about having sex with the hottest girls possible, because that is way more marketable than the actual content especially to a male audience.
But that is not what this book is about. The amount of actual advice on how to pick up women is tiny This is a memoir -slash- cautionary tale about the dangers of living your life constantly seeking validation from others.
The various PUA artists in this book are all depicted as sad, pathetic, self-loathing, mentally unstable people who truly believe that being desirable to others will make them like themselves more. But from chapter one Strauss makes it clear that doesn't happen. They get everything they think they want and end up more miserable for it.
The problem is this book is too fucking long. I half suspect that most of the people both women and men who talk about it in terms of its seduction secrets did not read it to the end. Add to this the fact that Strauss is trying to stay in character as he narrates his journey from True Believer to Disillusioned Master and the profound brilliance of The Game barely has a chance.
The man who wrote the bible on picking up women no longer believes in the pickup game
There are plenty of hints dropped throughout the book about Strauss's eventual enlightenment, but some people have no mind for subtly I guess. Attraction is not physical, but psychological.
Part of what annoys me about the so-called "feminist" reaction to this book is that there's a multi-billion dollar industry built around convincing women of the exact opposite and humiliating anyone who dares to call bullshit. An industry that makes the bulk of its money by inventing flaws and imperfections to make women feel horrible about themselves. And yet the best we can come up with to combat it are fairytales about "different standards of beauty"?
These feminists act like liberation from the image-obsessed media is all about accepting your lot in life and just waiting for a partner whose standard of beauty happens to fit your look to come along. They accept the underlying notion that some people are "pretty" and some are not The big problem with this thinking is that people are not static. Looks change over time. If the answer was to rely on the off chance someone somewhere thinks you are beautiful exactly the way you are By contrast Mystery's Method claims attraction has more to do with how people feel around you than how you look.
Mystery teaches his students about group think and instructs his pupils to focus on the friends of the hot girl, rather than the hot girl. People are strongly influenced by the opinion of the group. Anyone who's taken a basic organizational behavior class has read the mounds of research on this.
When your target sees everyone around her acting like you are amusing and desirable, she will be more attracted to you. People become much more susceptible to that suggestion when they themselves feel insecure. So the second thing Mystery teaches his students is the "neg". Probably the most controversial part of the book, the neg is basically just a back handed compliment. It's teasing, innocent, and delivered in a flirtatious manner.
It's this disconnect between the words which sound like a criticism and the way they are delivered which sounds positive that makes people second guess themselves. And the suggestion that maybe the PUA isn't interested in the target makes the target more likely to convince themselves of an attraction.
The group desires something apparently unattainable Of course some readers seem to have interpreted the passages about negs to mean "act like a fucking jerk" That's not at all what Strauss is describing. Most of The Game's secrets resonated with me because I've been there. When I was twenty-two my life fell apart and I moved to the Czech Republic to escape my demons.
My first week there I fell for a stocky, thirty-six year old statistician with a bowl cut and coke bottle thick glasses Revenge of the Nerds all the way. I knew objectively speaking this man was in no way attractive, but I couldn't help myself.
I had the biggest crush. I was also in a strange country where I didn't speak the language. I had no idea where I was going to live, whether I could get a job. Of course I was smitten. At the same time two of my American roommates were fighting over a balding, short, bespeckled geologist who smoked way too much pot and had abandoned his pregnant girlfriend back in the states to run off to Prague So yes, it's not that people have "different standards of beauty", it's that attraction is psychological.
Now take a minute to consider what that means: Right now. Absolutely anyone. The determining factor is not perfecting your physical form, but making them feel a certain way around you.
They won't suddenly think you're beautiful, they will suddenly not care that you aren't. Consider that unlike your physical appearance, your personality and social skills don't change. Every girl in America should read this book.
Strauss moves from discussion of technique to long rambling conquest stories with backgrounds of various PUA mixed in. Although the PUAs become important later, at least half of these could have been cut. Prior to this Strauss has tried to maintain the voice and perspective of someone who believes he has discovered the secrets of the universe.
There is the occasional remark that alludes to problems with the PUA lifestyle many of his Until Strauss's mentor begins to self-destruct.
At this point Strauss realizes that most of his students haven't gained anything by being PUAs, they've actually lost a lot. Even though they win the women they want, they only wanted those women in the first place because they were trying to impress others.
Instead of seducing the crowd to win the girl, they are trying to win the girl to seduce the crowd. Instead of surrounding themselves with awesome people who make them happy, they inevitably surround themselves with people who they think will make them look attractive and successful to others but ultimately do not like. This soulless existence only increases their underlying self hate.
The tragedy being that as soon as the PUA gets to know the person providing the validation, once they become a human being with their own flaws and insecurities, they're approval is no longer valuable. And so the cycle continues until everyone is miserable. Nov 29, Leajk rated it it was ok Recommends it for: Recommended to Leajk by: Know thy enemy.
One extra star for pure entertainment value, especially the very first scene where 'the hero' of the book, Mystery, lies curled up crying on the floor of the communal pickup mansion dressed in the bathrobe previously belonging to his stripper ex-girlfriend.
Apparently he misses her, like a lot, which is quite sweet I suppose. That is for a man who reinvented himself from a living-in-his-parents-basement type of guy, to the cons-insecure-wannabe-starlets-in-LA type of guy. And the Know thy enemy. And thereby invented the trend of men wearing ugly hats.
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And ugly jewlery. And doing 'negging'. And who destroyed magic for me. And briefly dating. Actually strike what I said earlier: I think I just enjoyed to read about him crying. You know how there's always the shy, but kind of nice, guy in every group of men? Me and my friends knew two of those in two separate groups of guy friends during high-school. The funny thing was that they were so similar to us, despite their groups being very different, that we thought they might've been twins.
Both were tall, thin which they tried to hide with ill fitting clothes and with blonde badly cut hair. Both of them were as I said quite shy, and were both hoping to have future careers within computer sciences of some sort. One of them once arrived at one of our parties to cry on a couch during the rest of the evening. He had just reached the profound realisation that he was never getting laid. One of my girl friends force fed him ice-cream in an effort to make him feel better.
So I understand the frustration of teenage boys not getting laid. Hell, I understand the frustration of teenage girls not getting laid. I've been there. Then on the other hand you have the other of my blonde geeky high school friends, let's call him Mike. Mike was always one of the most talkative ones in his group of friends. He was friendly and easy to get along with, although shy around girls he didn't know. Then suddenly at one party he started to become really snappy.
He'd criticize all the female attendants clothing and most of what they said. We asked him what the hell he was doing and it turned out that he had just read this book It turned out to be 'The Game naturally. We asked him to please stop and go back to being, you know, a normal polite human being. He insisted on keeping up with the book, and although his clothing and hair style went from bad to worse, he did eventually get laid.
Though he never seemed too happy about it. She wasn't hot enough or something. This was my first exposure to The Game. Years later I met this other quite shy but friendly guy who due to certain circumstances, such as the number of people left in that town during summer being low, I ended up spending some time hanging out with.
Physically he was the absolute opposite of those earlier male friends, but this guy had constant diet and self-improvement plans going on so it shouldn't have come as a surprise when he drunkenly confessed to having read The Game after I had previously made fun of the book at a book shop. He even confessed to trying to use the techniques in the book on me.
This was when I decided to read this book, in pure self-defense. And I found it a great read.
In fact the rest of that summer I wouldn't shut up about it. I felt it was my personal calling to tell all of my girl friends about it so that they wouldn't fall for any of the tricks. In fact I even managed to detect this awful 'are the two of you best friends? So is my rating of two stars really fair? After all I did found it funny, fascinating and it made for a great conversation piece.
However as I said in the shorter version of my review, it also brought so much pain and suffering into this world. Neil Strauss might be the sane straight man in the story, the one who points out all the follies in the system and who eventually gets out and gets a 'happy ending' i.
I say obviously because I keep meeting these men who just didn't get it. Who download into the negging and peacocking, but engage in no genuine self-improvement I'm not talking about them downloading more self-improvement books here, I mean coming to peace with one self.
This might not have been Strauss' intent, but his description of how he went from sexless nerd to sex stud, sure did not help. I think it's that last aspect that disturbs me the most. That the book implies that men and women are really all that different. I mean I read The Selfish Gene which I think sadly is on Mystery's recommended reading list , and that is not the message I took away from that at all.
Sure some biological differences might mean we have different pros and cons in 'the game', but ultimately we all want the same thing: And that's why this book is sad on so many levels, it makes women out to be this exotic species to be studied from afar. It also makes it so that there are no cultural differences.
Instead Strauss claims that since their strategies worked both all over LA and once in Bulgaria or was it Romania? Oh, and it's not only the wanna be actresses women you meet in the night clubs in LA, actually one of the women in the Eastern European country they were in, she was a doctor of some sorts, and she liked them, so boom - it works on all smart women as well! I could go on and on, but I'd like to end this review by issuing a warning for all potential readers: Or possibly read The Art of Love , it seems like fun View all 24 comments.
This is a fascinating trip to vicarious realization of Eros' dreams of shy guys--e. Yet, a journey that--as one might suspect--comes to the author's recognition of the emptiness of sexual prolificity. I concede this isn't one most of my friends will read. I'm a guy who fits every profile in Quiet: I would drift off to sleep nights, praying for a cure. In fact, up until I was maybe 17, it was dreadful: I would clam up even around girls who pursued me. Anyhow, Strauss, a reporter for Rolling Stone, decided he was tired of losing with the ladies so he signs up for some pickup artists' courses and infiltrates the pick-up society.
As it turns out, these guys are far from the bores I pictured when I heard "pickup artist. When I look back on those long ago days of a quarter century ago when I was single, I would have given anything to know the secrets of "Mystery" and his "Method. Apparently, this " negging " is a well-worn technique of initial primitive attraction, much more successful than not, if the man can maintain his confidence and her interest.
Examples include: There it goes again! What are you, like 4'9" without 'em? Well, not like cute-cute, more like puppy-cute " " I think I saw you here a few weeks ago.
Were you wearing that same dress? It IS a nice dress. You really wrecked a moment! Your old boyfriends must have really hated that about you. It's all so demeaning to the female. Nonetheless, given my background, yes, it is true that I would find this all very fascinating, notwithstanding its lack of practical use to me now given my age and marital status. Strauss becomes so proficient and successful that he became somewhat of a mythical figure in the pickup society.
Given his appearance and comportment at the beginning--bald, a big honker, short--I seems quite astounding. Alas tho, in the end, he came to a few self-revelations: I was experiencing seducer's paradox: The better a seducer I became, the less I loved women.
Success was no longer defined by getting laid or finding a girlfriend, but by how well I performed. Sometimes it stops being casual. People develop a desire for something more.
And when one person's expectations don't match the other person's, then whoever holds the highest expectations suffers. There is no such thing as cheap sex.Both were tall, thin which they tried to hide with ill fitting clothes and with blonde badly cut hair. I was horrified and fascinated- enough to keep reading until the end of the book.
Look through music and men's Iashion magazines, find the haircut you'd must like to have. What really fascinated me was a comment that even Strauss himself made early on, that some girls just don't respond to the pick up artist tactics. Probably the most controversial part of the book, the neg is basically just a back handed compliment. OK, close. Chaos Monkeys.